Many will frown in dismay over this proposition.This is natural,so used we have become to being prisoners of our ego and our intellects.And this proposition comes,not from the Intellect,but from a dimension of our Consciousness which is much deeper than our Thinking Mind.And finding this dimension frees us from the suffering we inflict on ourselves and others when the mind-made "Little Me" is all we know and runs our life.
When we Awake from this Dream of Incessant Thinking,and become Aligned with the greater Consciousness,we free ourselves from the Tyranny of Logical Thinking and awake to a greater Freedom of Living.It is,perhaps, time to awaken to an Evolving Sum rather than to the Zero Sum game of Life.If we Allow ourselves to be surprised by the Bounties of Life, we will gasp in awe how Abundant Life can be,indeed.But,instead of aligning ourselves with this pulsating brilliance,we remain trapped in the prison of our intellects and the stuffiness of our egos.
This joy we owe to ourselves and to people we interact with in the daily business of living.
--- On Tue, 12/6/11, The Center for Personal Reinvention
This is Joe Rubino and I'm writing today to focus your awareness on
the source of your actions. As human beings, we operate daily
reflecting a wide range of emotions with a multitude of motivations
fueling our behaviors. All too often, we react emotionally to what
others say or do. If our reactions are preceded by the emotions of
fear, anger, or sadness, we forfeit our ability to act with
personal power and effectiveness in lieu of a knee-jerk response.
This reaction is all too often sourced in fear and low self-esteem.
We may focus on what's wrong with us and our lives or fear being
controlled, hurt, or taken advantage of. We may overlook the many
things we have in our lives for which we should rightly be
grateful. When we doubt our ability to thrive and access the
abundance we see all around us in the world, we react instead from
the concern of scarcity and the expectation of failure, hurt, and
disappointment. We may see ourselves in competition for the world's
resources and the love and attention of others rather than
realizing that there is more than enough of all that is good to go
around. We forget that we manifest what we expect rather than
needing to compete for limited resources.
Whenever we forget that we are magnificent beings and that there is
plenty of wealth, happiness, fun, and fulfillment to go around, we
might feel the need to protect ourselves from what we perceive to
be a dangerous world. We likewise tend to forget that others
operate from the same lacking self-confidence, scarcity of
gratitude, and deficient self-love that we often do. So, whenever
two or more individuals see themselves as not good enough to tap
into the world's abundance and get all their needs met from a
physical, social, mental, and emotional perspective, conflicts are
likely to arise. The result is broken relationships, strained
communication, emotional pain, struggle, and suffering. All of
these are needless and optional for those who realize their ability
to detach from the struggle and master their emotional response.
When we stop to realize that everyone else suffers from the same
self-doubt and fear of being dominated and cheated out of getting
their fair share of love, fun, money, possessions, and security, we
can break the vicious cycle of endless competition and continual
striving for domination. We can realize that cooperation and
communication is more effective in producing harmony than
competition and a focus on self-interest based on fear. We can
intentionally choose to trust that others are doing the best they
know how to do based upon how they see the world. We can assume
that they act from good intentions, even when we fear the opposite.
We can hold them as worthy, competent, loving, good natured and
capable of creating win-win relationships rather than fearing them
as hateful, ill meaning, incompetent, unworthy, selfish opponents.
When we decide to champion others by looking for the best in them
and interact with them out of an attitude of gratitude for their
gifts, strengths, and positive qualities, in such as manner that
they are clear that we hold them as intrinsically good and worthy
of our love and respect, we provide for them a new and exciting
opportunity for them to show up for us in this manner. Our decision
to hold others as great (because they really are when we strip away
their anger, fears, and insecurities) allows them the freedom to
rise to our expectations. By operating from love and gratitude for
the wisdom and empathy we develop as a result of our interactions
with others, we see their mistakes as temporary indiscretions
producing valuable lessons from which to learn and grow rather than
reflections of a fundamentally defective being.
The key to bringing out the best in others is non-attachment. When
we realize that we have total control over our response to any
situation, and we give up our right to be invalidated by others or
control them, we will possess a newfound freedom that allows us to
exit the drama of conflict in favor of understanding, compassion,
and love. Decide now to be grateful for the challenges you will
encounter in your life and business. See the problems that arise as
opportunities for your personal development. Look for these
challenges as you go about your day, be grateful when you encounter
them, and seek out the gifts awaiting your discovery.
Exercise for Expanding Gratitude and Shifting Your Reactive Nature
1. List all the things you have decided to be grateful for in your
life and business.
2. In your daily journal, record each time you fail to express
gratitude for a challenging situation.
3. Catch yourself reacting emotionally to what someone says or does
and shift your perception in that moment to appreciate the learning
experience at hand.
4. In your daily life and business, who are you not holding as
5. How can you champion their excellence and express gratitude for
the opportunity to grow in love and wisdom that they are gifting
you instead of reacting with anger, sadness, or fear?
6. Who are you seeking to control or avoid being controlled by?
Will you take on the practice of non-attachment in your
relationship with them by creating space for them to be who they
are? Do this for 30 days and record in your journal how your
interactions with them evolve. Make note of something that you can
be grateful for in each situation.
Dr. Joe Rubino is a life-changing life optimization and business
coach and the best-selling author of TheSelfEsteemBook.com and 11
other transformational books available worldwide in 19 languages.